#600 – Conor Murphy

Conor Murphy (00:00):

Trying to be like you,

Sevan Matossian (00:02):

Bam. We’re live dude. That’s way I need to invest in a, in an arm like that. My arm is so janky.

Conor Murphy (00:09):

We, we just got new ones and it has been a game changer.

Sevan Matossian (00:12):

Yeah. What brand is that?

Conor Murphy (00:16):

Uh, pro looks like the mic’s

Caleb Beaver (00:19):


Conor Murphy (00:19):

Podcast. Pro what’s the mic?

Caleb Beaver (00:22):

Uh, it’s a shirt SM 70,

Sevan Matossian (00:25):

But, but the, but the mic, I think I might, I don’t know what Mike I have, but I’m, I’m happy with my mic. It’s my, it’s my arm. I’m not happy with.

Conor Murphy (00:32):


Caleb Beaver (00:34):

Yeah. These are just called.

Sevan Matossian (00:36):

Is that expensive

Caleb Beaver (00:37):

Podcast pro by Aite?

Sevan Matossian (00:40):

Is it a $500 arm?

Caleb Beaver (00:42):

No, I don’t think so. Um, podcast.

Sevan Matossian (00:46):

Wow. You’re a ventriloquist. I didn’t see any of that in your, um,

Caleb Beaver (00:50):


Sevan Matossian (00:50):

That’s a fucking amazing

Caleb Beaver (00:52):

A hundred bucks, I think I’m seeing. And,

Sevan Matossian (00:57):

And what do you like about at Connor that you can choose more positions?

Conor Murphy (01:00):

Yeah. I mean, it, you can turn and rotate. I’ll bring like my daughter on the podcast. Yeah. And it just like, just sits just, well, wherever you want it.

Sevan Matossian (01:10):

Yeah. That’s cool. I had a good joke there. Um, about, uh, a girlfriend who could get in a lot of positions and you fucked it all up by mentioning your daughter. Thank you. <laugh> to fucking great start,

Sevan Matossian (01:25):

Dude. When I, when I prepare for podcast, I, I do my notes on, um, on Google draft. So, so like the goo I use Google email, right? So you’re gonna come on the show and like, if I’m sitting somewhere on my phone, I’ll be going through your Instagram or listening to a podcast you’ve been on before. And then I take notes on my Google draft. And then at night, sometimes before I go to bed the night before a podcast, I have two windows open in my computer. And, um, one of ’em I’ll have like the Google, the draft document open. And then the other one I have just whatever I’m researching on the person. And then when I wake up in the morning, it’s usually on my phone and my computer. Right. Cuz it all, it just goes to the cloud and populates this morning I woke up and my fucking notes are gone.

Conor Murphy (02:09):

We’re just gonna have to raw dog. It,

Sevan Matossian (02:11):

Yeah. It’s like for it’s like, it’s like forgetting your wallet on the first date.

Caleb Beaver (02:17):


Sevan Matossian (02:19):

Have you ever done that? And then the chick accused you of doing it on purpose.

Conor Murphy (02:23):

You can U I mean, now you can talk your way out of it. Now you can Venmo. Now you can, you can figure it out to where it’s, you know, people don’t think you’re just a dirtbag.

Sevan Matossian (02:31):

My, my wife actually, we were going out and then we broke up and then the next time we went out, I forgot my wallet. And uh, she, she accused me of doing that shit on purpose to this day. I’m like, I can’t, I mean, you’re outta your fucking mind. You really thought I did that on purpose.

Conor Murphy (02:48):

I mean, worse than that, I’ve gone on dates where my card has been declined.

Sevan Matossian (02:52):

Oh, that’s awesome.

Conor Murphy (02:53):

Yeah. So that’s, there is no real excuse

Caleb Beaver (02:56):

<laugh> this

Conor Murphy (02:56):

Is won’t have any money.

Sevan Matossian (03:00):

Uh, and, and she paid.

Conor Murphy (03:03):

Yeah. I mean, it’s, it was normally that, you know, when I was in, when I was in San Diego, when I was in the Navy, you know, you knew exactly when you were getting paid and I would just drain it all the way up to like zero pretty much every single time. So whenever I was dating closer, the pay period, it was, it was a gamble.

Sevan Matossian (03:19):

I, I like that though, that you were in the Navy that, that kind of, there there’s some balance there, your card got declined, but you’re in the Navy. <laugh> you know what I mean? I

Conor Murphy (03:30):

Always knew there were, sometimes I’m not kidding, cuz like DFAS was in Cleveland and if I were to get paid, you know, it happens at midnight. So it it’d be nine o’clock in San Diego. So there were times when I was like, I just can’t pay until nine o’clock and then at nine o’clock now you can use my card. Now it’s gonna go through, we

Sevan Matossian (03:48):

Have to, we’re gonna have to stay out a little longer, honey. <laugh> um, uh, why did you join the Navy?

Conor Murphy (03:55):

Um, you know, growing up, I just, I always thought of like the seal teams as like the, the toughest baddest people. Um, I was just a, I was a dirtbag in high school too. Like I, you know, I just did everything to make my friends laugh and for attention, I never applied myself. So college really wasn’t and I probably could have gone to college. My parents were willing to pay for, you know, my, my brother, my sister, everyone to go through college. And my dad was like, yeah, we’re not, we’re not gonna pay for you to go be an absolute idiot. And so like my junior year was kind of like, Hey, this is, this is what we’re gonna do. I’m gonna enlist as soon as I graduate and ended up, um, uh, graduating early and then going straight in,

Sevan Matossian (04:37):

Hey, is that to, um, kind of punish them. Okay. You won’t pay for my college. Fuck. You’ll go in the Navy.

Conor Murphy (04:42):

Uh, I, I thought of it as that like, oh yeah, well, you know, I said I was gonna do this, so now I’m gonna do it. And it couldn’t have been a better thing for me. And, and from there, my relationship with my parents just like skyrocket they’re, they’re two of my best friends now. They dated in high school still together. Um, and once they were no longer financially responsible for me, as I told you in the, in the, in the story beforehand, I wasn’t very good with it. Um, our relationship was just, um, great from there.

Sevan Matossian (05:14):

I’ve never heard that. Um, I mean it makes it, it it’s glaringly obvious, but I’ve never heard that, that the relationship transitioned at a point, um, when you became financially, uh, independent from them or that you didn’t have a financial relationship with them, what, what do, what are the implications of that? Why, why did you choose that to describe the kind of the demarcation of when things got, be things got better?

Conor Murphy (05:39):

I think it was, you know, they were no longer responsible. Like I was responsible for a hundred percent of what I did. And like I said, I would, I would do silly things. You know, I stole a six by four foot McDonald’s sign from the McDonald’s in our small hometown, that’s it, police came over to the house and, and got it from underneath my bed. I had like three golden arches sticking out from underneath my futon as if like people weren’t gonna, it was a small town. I was just, you know, I would do it for the stories. And uh, so once, you know, the police weren’t showing up at their house to grab the McDonald’s sign, then it was like, okay, you know, we can just, uh, enjoy my company a little bit more than just, uh, you know, being responsible for it.

Sevan Matossian (06:20):

Um, so you did, you do a lot of crazy shit. Like you were the guy who streaked like at the, uh, football game or at the, like, there’d be like some sort of like teacher’s parent, like PTA meeting and you and your buddies would streak it shit like that.

Conor Murphy (06:33):

A hundred percent, whatever, whatever made him laugh, whatever had stories. I mean, it was, that was the class clown. And not really understanding you remember, my dad would always be like, do you know the difference between right or wrong? And I’d be like, I think so, but that kind of seemed right at the time. Now it seems wrong. But at the time, you know, was a great story.

Sevan Matossian (06:54):

Uh, my, um, yesterday my kids were on the skate ramp and they were on the skate ramp with, um, those three wheel scooters that like little kids ride mm-hmm <affirmative> have you seen those? You can like lean and shit and

Conor Murphy (07:08):

Two in the front, one in the back.

Sevan Matossian (07:09):

Yeah. My, my micro micro scooters. They’re they’re, they’re really cool. And actually they have an adult one and if you ever get a chance to ride it, ride it, cuz you’ll be blown away. They look like they’re super easy to ride. They are not, you have to be so comfortable with, uh, momentum and leaning. It’s weird. But anyway, yesterday my kid had one of those on the skate ramp and he’s launching it up over the skate ramp out of the, over the railing into some, um, my passion fruit grapevine. And he does it the first time and I’m like, Hey, please don’t do that. And he does it, uh, two more times and I’m like, Hey dude, what are you doing? You you’re damaging the plant. And I paid for that scooter and he goes, yeah, uh, it, it’s just, it’s hard to control. And I go, I I’ve seen you ride that for five years.

Sevan Matossian (07:55):

I’ve never seen it. You launch it outta the skate ramp today. It’s hard to control. And then he pivoted to another story. I couldn’t like he said something else. Well, um, he goes, it doesn’t matter. We don’t ride this scooter. I go, it does matter. That thing costs me money and you’re hurting the plants. Basically. He started pivoting stories. Do you know that effect when people do that? Like they, like, they don’t, they don’t care what the truth is. They’re trying to get outta like the situation. Yes. And I started having these flashbacks of what it felt like to be a young boy. And finally I put, I’m like, okay, stop everything, come in the garage. And I go, what the fuck are you doing? Why are you doing that? He’s seven. He goes, I don’t know <laugh> and I was like, oh shit. And that’s what I felt like when your dad said, do you know the difference between right or wrong? That’s the kind of shit. Like, I don’t understand the question. I don’t know. I don’t even like, what do you mean? Like you said, that seemed right at the time. What, what do you mean? Everything I do is right. It’s so weird. Being a, a young man or a boy people you can’t, unless you were that. I don’t know if it’s like that for girls. You can’t understand, like, did you think before you threw the rock out onto the freeway? Yeah. I fucking wore my arm up. Like what are you talking about? Like

Conor Murphy (09:05):

<laugh> that is, that’s not even like, I could tell that story. Not as like the euphemism, like I literally threw rocks on the highway and yeah. Again, another thing where like the police came

Sevan Matossian (09:15):

And someone could have died.

Conor Murphy (09:16):

Yeah. My dad was like, were you think it was like, no, I just wanted it to make a really loud noise. And it just kind of seemed like <laugh> no, I warmed my arm up beforehand. Like, yeah,

Sevan Matossian (09:27):

This is why, um, a boys can’t be left alone under their own. I don’t know if this is the right word, recognizance their own. This is why it’s so important. Um, to keep, uh, first of all, first of all, there’s, there’s two things here and feel free to jump in Connor. One, if you don’t help your kid build an identity, if you don’t put your kid in a good situation to build an identity, he’ll create one of his own, he’ll feel around in the dark and create it. And what do I mean by that? Put him in a jujitsu class, put him in a CrossFit kids’ class, get him, put him in a Kon class, give him something that he can start getting good at. So he can start building an identity, let him know that his family’s from Ireland, let him know, like give him some, give him details every day and set him up so he can start building a person who he is. If you don’t, he’s gonna build his own fucking person, him, them the, yeah. Yeah. And, and, and don’t encourage stupid things either.

Conor Murphy (10:22):

And yeah, that and the security and numbers thing too. I don’t think I ever got in trouble if it was just me. It was always, it was always the influence. And not even that other people had an influence over me, it was that I wanted to have an influence over them. So I wanted to do these things to make people laugh and to get that reaction out of people. And it, and it started off, you know, I was the youngest of three and I would, you know, my, I remember a story, uh, growing up. I don’t know where this is gonna go, but, uh, growing up, uh, my parents told me there was, I kept getting outta my crib and I would like open the door and I would get yelled at. And then, you know, I would get spanked and then would get put back in my crib. And so when my parents sat by the door, they would listen to my brother, go, Hey, do it again, do it again. And so after that, when I was, you know, I, they put me back in my crib. They said, if you get out one more time, Pat’s gonna get spanked. And then he was all

Sevan Matossian (11:20):

Like, this story took a wicked twist. Wow.

Conor Murphy (11:22):

And so, and it was like the influence that like, I would just do it because it was making my brother laugh. It was making my sister laugh. It was, it was these things. And then when they came back in, it was, it’s one of my favorite stories they tell. And then my brother was like, I’m like starting to get outta the curb again. He’s like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. It’s bedtime now. Bedtime time.

Sevan Matossian (11:39):

<laugh> he’s older.

Conor Murphy (11:42):


Sevan Matossian (11:42):

Hey, you were the, you were an overachiever that no one. Um, I, I guess I was kind of like this too. We were overachievers that we didn’t get, um, our talents weren’t directed properly. Like if you were gonna throw a rocket, a stop sign, I was gonna one up you and throw it at a moving car <laugh> with, with no, with no concern of the side effects.

Conor Murphy (12:05):

Yeah. That’s spot on.

Sevan Matossian (12:07):

Have you seen, so, so you entered the Navy and did you, did you last in there four years? Cause I saw a post where you said, oh, that didn’t go as planned.

Conor Murphy (12:15):

Um, well the goal in and was to continue in the special operations world. I I’ve suffered an injury relatively early on. And after having a surgery, it was like coming back from that I, everything was supposed to be cleared. And if you, if you don’t have a jump dive physical, you can’t continue in the job field that I was going in, which was, you know, an odd turn for me. As we talk about like the influencers, like I finally had something I was grasping, I was obsessed with. It was something that, you know, that’s when we started getting into CrossFit because I needed, I wanted extra training to be the best person I could be for that job. Right. And I had a buddy who said, Hey, here’s this website in 2007, crossfit.com. And

Sevan Matossian (12:54):

I was, who was that? What was your buddy’s name?

Conor Murphy (12:56):

His name is Billy Burnett. William Burnett. He was a, he was an

Sevan Matossian (12:59):

Ex that’s a great name.

Conor Murphy (13:01):

He was an ex, uh, army ranger. He was a combat veteran, but he was going through the other service veteran programs to go through the same program I was in. And he was the guy who got me into jujitsu. He was a purple belt at the time. Now he’s a, a police officer in, I wanna say Knoxville, Tennessee, he’s a black belt in juujitsu we still stay in touch to

Sevan Matossian (13:20):

This guy. Oh yeah. Yeah. I saw a picture with you and him together.

Conor Murphy (13:24):

Uh, that, that might have been Ruben. That might be the guy who I trained with now.

Sevan Matossian (13:27):

Oh, okay. The shorter guy. Who’s like, yeah. There’s, he’s a black belt and he’s like, there’s days. I don’t even know what I’m doing. Yeah. He humble dude. Yeah, yeah.

Conor Murphy (13:34):

Yeah. So he trains with John Danaher and uh,

Sevan Matossian (13:38):

Oh shit.

Conor Murphy (13:39):


Sevan Matossian (13:40):

Holy shit. Wow. Did you watch the ADCC?

Conor Murphy (13:44):

I didn’t subscribe to it because I refused to be, to pay for a year. I just, I, even though I would actually

Sevan Matossian (13:49):

Pay you’re the fifth person who’s told me that

Conor Murphy (13:52):

It it’s just ridiculous. It’s like pay $120. It’s like, gimme another option. Let me do the $20 a month and let it ride on my card. I would let that happen. But right. For some reason, it’s just that, you know, I’m like, oh, I just wanna watch this one fight. And then I see myself trying to watch like every flow grappling. And I’m like, does anyone have a password or anything for this? But no, I didn’t watch it. Right. But I just saw the highlights of him. Absolutely dominating it. He is just better than everyone else by a Lance. He is Matt Fraser at his peak versus, you know, the second half of the field, it’s just, no one can touch him.

Sevan Matossian (14:26):

Yeah. It was special.

Conor Murphy (14:29):

It was, I saw the, I saw, uh, Nick rod on your podcast, which I thought was really cool. Um, and listening to him and that’s a great story as well.

Sevan Matossian (14:38):

Did you see, I interviewed his brother a few twice now. J JRO

Conor Murphy (14:44):

I had, I saw, I wanna say I actually saw the second one.

Sevan Matossian (14:48):

Yeah, the second one, the last half hour, a crazy interview. Because over that hour he changes so much not changes. He opens up so much. It sucked. I only put like, uh, allocated 30 minutes for that interview and I, and I screwed it all up. Cuz the last half hour he really comes out of his show.

Conor Murphy (15:04):

That’s awesome. I’m gonna, I’m gonna have to go back and, and re-watch that? Cause I love their story. I mean the, as just super talented family, but also now driven towards jujitsu from that, from the, you know, wrestling background.

Sevan Matossian (15:17):

Good mom and dad still married.

Conor Murphy (15:20):


Sevan Matossian (15:21):

Our parents support us in whatever we do. Oh yeah. They love each other. It’s like, yeah. Duh. Um, uh, when Jay Rodd, oh yeah, here he is. When Jay Rodd was on, one of the cool things was, is that, um, he just volunteered at one point towards that interview. He goes, I’m not on steroids. Every, I don’t, I’ve never drank in my life. I don’t smoke weed and I’ve never done steroids. Everyone thinks, you know, I’m just like a fucking home body and I just loved it. It was like such a cool, um, not that, I mean, everyone has to take their own path. I’m not judging people who do drink and smoke weed and do steroids, but it was just cool that he, you know, he, he was like, fuck you. Like don’t, don’t put me in a box.

Conor Murphy (15:59):

You know, it’s in kind of an interesting transition to what I’ve been doing a lot lately is in the music industry, especially in the electronic music world, you know, people will go to these shows. People will go to festivals, they’ll go to concerts. And it is, you know, drinking alcohol or you know, drugs. There’s

Sevan Matossian (16:16):

This MD a please

Conor Murphy (16:17):

This kind of, yeah, there’s this, uh, there’s this background of, Hey, here’s, here’s what everyone is doing. Yes. A lot of the artists, a lot of the people that I work with don’t drink. Some of them never have some of them straight edge. Some of them, you know, focus on their training and it’s so it’s so interesting to see, you know, this dynamic and what we’re, what we’re trying to do is get it out there that it, they don’t need to live mutually exclusive. It doesn’t have to be, you are either a party or, or, uh, yeah. So this is, um, on tour with, uh, Dylan Francis and young gravy was the, uh, co headlining artist. And

Sevan Matossian (16:53):

Is that them right? There is that young gravy.

Conor Murphy (16:55):

That’s young gravy all the way on the left. Yeah.

Sevan Matossian (16:58):

Yeah. He’s cool. That, that video that I obviously don’t have the fucking link cuz my notes went to shit. But that video you where you’re swinging a twoo and he’s swinging a kettlebell is fucking hilarious.

Conor Murphy (17:08):

He’s doing his curls. Yeah. He’s uh,

Sevan Matossian (17:10):

It’s kind of a curl. It’s a curl kettlebell swing hybrid <laugh>

Conor Murphy (17:15):


Sevan Matossian (17:15):

Was like,

Conor Murphy (17:15):

It was like the post to workout where, you know, it’s, you know, he’s still in like this, like, all right, well we gotta chase this pump and I’m like, I assure you, what you did earlier with the kettlebell is gonna be a lot more beneficial than what you’re doing now, but you know what? You’re moving. We’re good to go.

Sevan Matossian (17:28):

Is he cool? Um, do you ask him before? Hey, can, am I, I’m gonna put, can I put this on my Instagram?

Conor Murphy (17:35):

Um, um, I, I didn’t ask him. No. I mean, we, we did, you know, we had spent two months together. Yeah. And so anything that, you know, he doesn’t care any of the publicity he’s, you know, people will look at that too. And they’re like, oh, this guy kind of plays a lot of his songs. And what he’s known for is like, oh, he likes mils. Oh, he, you know, he, he kind of like puts himself in this category and people have no idea how smart and how, how good he is at marketing, figuring out, Hey, this is my niche. This is where this is what I’m gonna live with. And, um, just plays to it so well,

Sevan Matossian (18:09):

Yeah, he’s awesome.

Conor Murphy (18:12):

He’s like six, seven from, you know, a rapper from Minneapolis, Minnesota.

Sevan Matossian (18:16):

Oh no shit.

Conor Murphy (18:18):


Sevan Matossian (18:19):

Young gravy. He, and that’s his thing. He’s a rapper.

Conor Murphy (18:25):


Sevan Matossian (18:26):

Okay. I wonder does he answer his DMS? I wanna DM him.

Conor Murphy (18:32):

He may.

Sevan Matossian (18:33):

I need to have more rappers on Hey, uh, uh, before we talk about how you got into working. Oh, there he is. Young gravy. Hey, um, so what was the injury and how’d you finally get out of the Navy?

Conor Murphy (18:48):

Um, I had just had, I had had surgery on my elbows. Um, I threw the baseball really, really hard as a kid. I just, I would throw until I could no longer lift my arm and they didn’t have these rules where you could only throw so many pitches or so many days of the week. So being competitive in my team wanting to win when I was young, I would pitch pretty much every game. So that led to osteochondritis that led to my elbows getting scoped. And then that led to having issues diving. So essentially, you know, coming up without safety stops would be a, a, a significant issue. What the dive officers explained is that the oxygen builds up like carbonation almost like in my elbow to, and, you know, it would swell and I wouldn’t be able to, you know, to operate in that.

Conor Murphy (19:35):

So it was almost like a, Hey, we have to avoid this because of the worst case scenario, because I had had those surgeries and then it was kind of a dance around where I’m trying to get cleared by. I’m trying to get civilian opinions from doctors to go outside the Navy because the dive officers that weren’t gonna clear me. And then, then it just kind of got into this battle where I was trying to go like above and beyond. So at the end, because I had gotten through my training, they were like, Hey, you can just, we would just medically retire you. And they were like, you can spend the rest of your enlistment on a ship if you want, or, you know, or this is the route you can go. And so I was like, yeah, I don’t, I don’t wanna do anything else, which then, you know, reverted me back to, you know, not having the, the driver or, or purpose until, um, doing the CrossFit level one, uh, seminar

Sevan Matossian (20:26):

You and, and how, and how soon, um, after you left the army or, sorry, the Navy, did you take your L one?

Conor Murphy (20:32):

It was as I was getting out. So it’s not just like a, Hey, you’re gonna get out. I mean, it was like a, a year long process of medical appointments and, and, you know, dancing around. And so during that time I was, I didn’t know what I was gonna when I got out and there, I knew some awesome guys that ran, uh, CrossFit, PB, which then moved to San Diego athletics and Anders Barner, and Brian Boorstein, who are, are still around in, in, you know, the different spaces. I don’t think they’re, they own affiliates anymore. I think they sold their affiliate and now they’re just kind of on their, on their own. But I mean, super dedicated guys. I would go in there and throw down workouts with them. So when I did my level one, are

Sevan Matossian (21:19):

You back at home at this time Connor

Conor Murphy (21:20):

Right now?

Sevan Matossian (21:21):

No. When, when, when you’re telling this story, you moved back to your house with your parents?

Conor Murphy (21:27):

No, no, I never did. No.

Sevan Matossian (21:28):

Oh, oh, okay.

Conor Murphy (21:29):

So I was, I was still living in San Diego and okay. So I was like down in CrossFit, Pacific beach in San Diego. I’m originally from Washington state.

Sevan Matossian (21:39):

Okay. And then you, and so you’re there and you’re like, Hey, I’m gonna take my L one or someone talks to you into taking your L one or you pay for your, they pay for your L one or what happens.

Conor Murphy (21:47):

No. So I was, you know, I had just like sold my car because I, I, you know, was kind of just getting rid of all the stuff I didn’t need realizing I wasn’t going to have a steady paycheck again. Yeah. So, and, and I was like, Hey, like thousand dollars, I’m just gonna put it towards, I, I don’t think I’d ever spent like a thousand dollars on something, obviously with the exception of, you know, purchasing a vehicle with a preapproved, you know, VA loan and all that. So it was like a, a relatively large expense for me. And I remember studying for it and, and, and I never studied for anything in high, anything, any of the tests in high school? I just, I didn’t care. I couldn’t. Right. If I couldn’t see where it was gonna take me, it was very difficult for me to apply myself to something.

Conor Murphy (22:30):

And I remember it was when we used to have to like, take the test and then you sat and waited and then scored your test. And then you either opened up a Manila folder that said, congratulations, you’re across at level one trainer, or thanks for coming and getting your, you know, certificate of an attendance. And I remember opening that up and it was, you know, I was not to be like, you know, dark in this, or we don’t have to go down that area, but I was fucking lost, man. It was like everything that I had worked for being this, like, you know, I wouldn’t say troubled youth, but this person who’s always getting in trouble, finally found something to fully apply myself. And then once that was taken away, I felt fucking lost. It was like, I, I don’t know what I’m gonna do. Even the thought of moving back, I was like, what am I gonna do? What

Sevan Matossian (23:13):

Year is this?

Conor Murphy (23:14):

This is 2010. Yeah. 2011 maybe. And cause ilist in thousand seven. And I remember seeing that the, like the level one trainer and I was like, fuck, I’m gonna, I’m gonna take this as far as I can. This is a, like, I love it. I love that the course of the weekend, the trainers, the other people that were in there, it was, it was something where I finally felt, Hey, here’s a similar comradery with the affiliates, with something that I’m good at and something that is coaching an infinite infinitely refinable skill where I can apply myself a hundred percent. And there’s no like, Hey, you did it. You’re complete. It’s like, you can still continue to process as a, as a coach, as an athlete. Cause I was still interested in competing. And um, I also had a chip on my shoulder. I wanted to make it to the CrossFit games to be like, Hey, you guys said, my elbows were fucked, but

Sevan Matossian (24:08):

You know, oh, that’s cool.

Conor Murphy (24:09):

And granted, it was separate, you know, and there’s no deep sea dive in the CrossFit games, but I, there was still, you know, chip

Sevan Matossian (24:16):

On my, yeah. I like, I like it chip, um, Connor in your Instagram, I noticed you had a brother and he passed away.

Conor Murphy (24:24):

Um, so Ty was, um, he was, we were born and raised together. He was my best friend growing up. He was my soul mate. He was, um, he was a combat controller in the air force. So special, special tactics in the air force. And he was

Sevan Matossian (24:38):

So not, not the same womb as you, but Nope, but, but very close.

Conor Murphy (24:42):

Okay. Yeah. I mean like his, uh, when his dad passed away, you know, he would, they would like, my dad was, I mean, we were just like close to family. In fact, I, I still think that my family liked him better than me. He didn’t get in quite as much trouble and was a better athlete. So it was like, I would,

Sevan Matossian (24:59):

The one they did, they did. I’ll I’ll I’ll confirm that for you. Yes, yes, yes. Mr. Murphy, you did. Oh yes. Yes. They did just a little bit though. Just

Conor Murphy (25:07):

A little bit, just tiny bit, but enough

Sevan Matossian (25:09):

Enough. Yeah.

Conor Murphy (25:10):

And um, yeah, August 20th, 2012, he was, um, riding his motorcycle back home. It was about a quarter from the house I grew up in and what I think had happened. Cause I went back to the rec site after he had passed away and there’s like a trail that kind of came through and it was, it’s like a green belt. There’s some good amount of, of wildlife there. Um, when I was driving through a deer came right into the middle of the road. And so he wasn’t, I mean, he wasn’t drinking, they wouldn’t have any like, you know, his blood alcohol was zero and you know, he, he was incredible on that thing. He was one of those guys that could hold on one of those guys that could just do everything and do everything really, really well. And just went off the side of the road and hit a Boulder. And uh, yeah,

Sevan Matossian (26:00):

So that was it’s interesting. So, so what made me asked that question right? There was cuz you said you were, it was, it was a bit of a dark period when you took your L one, but that, but really the dark period was still to come.

Conor Murphy (26:11):

Oh yeah. That was different kinds of dark period.

Sevan Matossian (26:17):


Conor Murphy (26:18):

Right. When I don’t know what I’m doing after that, that was a, I mean I’ve never lost any know and I’ve lost guys that were in the Navy guys that I served with, but I’d, I’d never had anything as devastating as losing him. Yeah. Even like my, my grandparents and you know, it was, he was just the closest person I’ve ever, you know, known or talked to.

Sevan Matossian (26:39):

It’s interesting. So you went back to the scene of the crime and when you were there, a deer ran in front of you and you’re like, yep. A deer must have run in front of him and, and he swerved and that was it. Yep. Did he die on, on the site right there then and there? Yep. Do you, do you know what kind of motorcycle he was riding?

Conor Murphy (26:54):

He had a CBR. I had a ninja. Oh he had a CBR.

Sevan Matossian (26:58):

Yeah. Oh God. Wow. Uh, what, what would you remember? What color it was?

Conor Murphy (27:04):

It was, it was like the gold trim. It was a 2008. It was a new bike, but it had like the golden black trim on it.

Sevan Matossian (27:12):


Conor Murphy (27:12):

I still remember. Cause we had like pictures and we would ride our bikes together. I was again, a moron on my motorcycle down in San Diego. I would do, I’d pull up next to car full of girls and do wheelies on the highway and just like in Italy. Wow.

Sevan Matossian (27:25):

Wow. Wow. You have a daughter now.

Conor Murphy (27:28):

I do.

Sevan Matossian (27:29):

You don’t have a son?

Conor Murphy (27:31):

I do not have a son. My daughter’s name is Ty named after

Sevan Matossian (27:34):

Ty. Oh wow. I, I I’m uh, oh man. Speaking at Ty, that was one of the things in the ADCC. Ty Rato. Wow. Oh my goodness. Do you know about the Rato brothers?

Conor Murphy (27:46):


Sevan Matossian (27:47):

Oh, you gotta look these guys up. This kid, one of the brothers won all won his weight class and beat everyone, uh, in, in submission, undefeated and Ola. The other brother, um, almost won the absolutes. I th I mean, it went to the judges and, and they said he lost, but I don’t think he lost. I thought it was obvious he won, but what do I know? Are you still, are you still doing jujitsu? Yep. Yeah. Cool. Oh yeah. These guys, man. It was, it’s a shame. They didn’t make it like 49, 99 for all two days or something that you had to pay. Yeah, that’s a shame.

Conor Murphy (28:24):

I just think it mean the barrier to entry. I mean, regardless you could, you know, you could talk someone into the argument of it being like, oh, over time it’s gonna be cheaper. But when some people just wanna wa like you just gotta get people in the door. Yeah. And then once they’re in the door, then you can, you know,

Sevan Matossian (28:40):

That must have been a hard decision. I, I, I was thinking about that, what it was like over in flow in those meetings, because there were for sure, two camps, I have to guess that there was one camp of guys who were like, Hey, let’s make this free. There was another camp that’s like, let’s make it 49 99. And there’s guys like, Nope. Full membership or nothing. And yeah.

Conor Murphy (29:01):

I mean, I don’t know what the right decision. I don’t know. I mean, financially, they might just be like laughing, being like work life. We

Sevan Matossian (29:07):

Killed it.

Conor Murphy (29:07):

This was the best. Yeah.

Sevan Matossian (29:08):

But I think the long term, your decision makes the sense if you’re with like, you wanna get as many people in the door. Right.

Conor Murphy (29:14):

Right. I, I think it’s, it’s similar to a CrossFit affiliate is, you know, but I, I guess, similar and different, you want people in, that’s why people do like the first class free or that’s why people, you know, you know, even with training people in the music industry that are afraid of CrossFit, you know, I give ’em this like, like super tailored version of, you know, like a 10 minute version of Cindy of doing some body weight stuff. And instead of pullups, they’re doing hang cleans cuz they don’t wanna look like they can’t do one of the movements and once you get them and you get them in the door and you start seeing, um, you know, the results from that, then, then we, you know, mechanics, consistency, intensity, then you can start to dose ’em up. But I think with just getting people training, I’ve done, I’ve done more probably.

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